My Children= My Career; Their Lives= My Hobby... Being a single mom, I found it challenging to mesh being a mother & wife- someone always seems to be left needing &/or wanting more than I could deliver, thus, I, at times, falter(ed) at each turn... W/ grandchildren arriving, I await t outcome of my parenting skills in action... Among other things...this is how it goes... Just sayin' I know, Right!?! This is our ongoing saga...my personal convictions, dreams & ideals...
Desire 2 go t/ distance. NEED best friend; SEEK ultimate lifetime bond, would B loyal & attentive. Not looking 4 a father 4 my children; they have 1 & we all get along quite well.*Kids in sports; I am t/ cheering mom! Have dog (Nigel), 2 cats (Panda Bleu (cheese) & Shiva t/ Ice Princess (all white)) *Prefer man who's family isn't dysfunctional; will consider 1 who has learned hard way.Would not work well w/ tough family or w/ a "harsh/nasty" former wife dealing w/ yr young children.(Though children are OK!) *Loving family accepting of all.*Big surprise in small package!(4'11 105 lbs) *Can cook; but really shine during holidays w/ a houseful of friends & relations! *Being out of state 4 few years-missed this time especially *Moved from OH to TX after divorce Sept '98 & moved back 2 Ohio 5/00.Would move SW where a bit of the 4 seasons touched once son graduates in '04. Was going 2 school 4 BA in Mass Communication & Journalism; decided Nursing (peer pressure in t/ family circle). Like to write though. I like going 2 classes & I like staying home w/ t/ kids on snow days... *I have a thing 4 eBay lately so have taken up tea cups & saucers. (yellow roses&lilacs together) Would like 2 learn 2 do mosaic tiles. Do not watch soap operas & rarely carry a purse *Bright, vivacious, lighthearted lady w/ higher maintenance than norm *Don't let me worry if my children & I will have 2 survive U! *Be YRself!*Love learning new things & attending sporting events *Dancing is always fun-learning 2 dance is more fun! *Follow t/ Tribe *Love ALL all types of food (can I say I like to eat here?)*grins* READ ON: Bcause I am UNABLE 2 share giving a man a child of his/our own, it is very important 2 me th@ a man have experienced this VERY important life-stage. Leaves me out of some REALLY GREAT prospects-Sorry 2 B so bold! (if u have special circumstances-please let me know early on!)
About the one I'm looking for:
Some1 w/ decent track record & I don't mean running shoes!! Kids great (yr's). Have desire 2 relocate, if th@'s where love takes me! Man who clean-shaves Bfore work & will wear it gruffy..just 4 me on t/ weekend, if I wish & B comfy w/ it. I follow sports - I have sons & feel t/ need 2 B able 2 talk 2 them about wh@ they care about...pretty simple thing 2 do, eh? But, what kind of sports you wonder?? ...college, Pro & HIGHSCHOOL!!! =+) NHRA, not really a NASCAR girl, but I could learn to appreciate dizzy spells, hehe. Victoria's Secret, white Russians, Bath & Body Works, pearls, Aruba, Yukon Jack, vibrant spring bouquets, volunteer work, Dim Sum (this is NOT regular, run of the mill Chinese food in a mall-type setting), Boston, football, Boyds Bears, hot salsa, Barcardi's Silver, room parenting, flowers, bloody marys, yellow roses, playing in the kitchen ;), can drive a GOLF cart & would like 2 B taught...opera, Dallas, Coors Light, baseball, Amish country, ballet, Yanni, white z; am versatile. Perfect dates R ones where U spend time LOOKING @ each other Weekend trips 2 anywhere. ***Seen 9 1/2 Weeks? Think it is how we R meant 2 spend a lifetime? I do.***
My idea of the perfect first date:
Meeting someplace fun where u can hear each other but someplace th@ isn't TOO personal. A place u can people watch but also watch t/ other person as THEY people watch. Ok Guys, now, don't sweat it but listen...I despise 2 say the word MALL but think about this...t/ food is cheap...& u have a few diff choices...wh@ u each want or more upscale if u decide t/ food-court is dressed down 4 the girl when u see her...(yr meeting for the first/second time for goodness sakes, we r adults here, right?) u can people watch & check out manners (so watch yr's 2!!)...& watch a person interact w/ store clerks...& u can see interests th@ R similar...like nature stores, art work, sports memorabilia...(if she grabs u & says "lets see if Casey Stingel's autograph is in here", she's a keeper!) Stay away from jewelry stores & clothing only places (unless she bolts 4 t/ clearance racks & u r prepared 2 purchase something she is willing 2 model 4 U...th@ is always interesting!! Check out fragrances...a nice surprise 2 mark down if the chemistry is hitting it off 4 future reference) Be prepared, she may feel t/ need to check out something or see someone she obviously has not seen in 10 years; So meet @ a mall th@ neither of u normally shop @. 100 dates 2 t/ movies offer NO conversation & NO opportunity to LEARN about t/ other in a social setting th@ offers the sincere closeness that comes from 2 trips 2 t/ mall LEARNING and having nonstop interests/interaction ns being brought up 2 produce future retrospect on social situations; not 2 mention memories. 4 wh@ it is worth, mention t/ people-watching evening & casual dress...Cuffed slacks/Polo shirt 4 U, if she asks wh@ 2 wear=High-end casual. OH, READ PROFILES IN FULL & FILL OUT YOUR INFO...if some1 has cats & U R allergic, THINK ABOUT TH@...Good Luck!
My perception of an ideal relationship:
*Communication. If a person is being themselves u will know t/ 1st or 2nd time u meet up w/ them in t/ RW (real world). I am not t/ online 'junkie' I was 5 years ago, by far, in fact, search engines bore me these days; however, I am a BIG believer th@ LISTENING and COMMUNICATION is where it ALL lays. You just have 2 B able 2 know when 2 shut up & HEAR wh@ t/ other person may B crying out 4 in their body language or sometimes just in t/ silence...& u have 2 know not 2 chase a person outside w/, "Wh@ is wrong?" (some chic's like this game...I am not one of them) or chase them out w/, "Go to %#$*" (wh@ I witness a lot of chics doing 2 their men, again, I do not play this game either...) There is something 2 t/ 'cooling down' period. If u want 2 give her wh@ YOU have, make a date w/ yr friends & their girls 2 all go 2 dinner & then come back 2 yr place so she can play hostess & grab out t/ Taboo game...or ask if u can have t/ guys over 4 a game-day & let her wait on u & yr friends soaking up t/ attention while your buddies think u got it made & she hears it from t/ other room...maybe it is just me, haha!
What I've learned from my past relationships:
Like I mentioned, listening. Stop t/ running from day 2 day & slow down & make sure t/ kids R gone 4 a weekend & renting a room @ a not-so-local BnB & sending t/ invite 2 a work address or via email...pack everything u both will need...Make life fun...KNOW AND UNDERSTAND each other's spending habits & STICK 2 A MUTUAL GAMEPLAN! Know how t/ past spouses work & deal w/ each other's children...go above AND beyond 2 work things out 4 yr kids, it will do yr relationship wonders. PUT YOUR SPOUSE FIRST...we all love our children but we spend OUR LIFE w/ t/ one we love & loves us in return. Be proactive. Don't wait 2 B asked 2 do things th@ R common sense in need of being done. No woman likes 2 keep her foot up someone's a$$ & personally, "I" do not nag, I call and ask yr brother or best friend after t/ 2nd reminder & keep a constant list on t/ fridge...;) This goes both ways so know I am not dogging ‘u boys'! (nobody likes a messy-filthy house so if yr working all day & she isn't...uhhh, guess who gets the cleaning responsibilities?... I am pretty traditional this way...it just seems to work best...maybe this is just me too! Now is a good place mention I am like this because I am accountable 2 someone...God.T/ traditional ways I act is due 2 Him. I am not a Jesus junkie, but I think in t/ long run th@ isn't going 2 B a bad thing eh? Th@'s just where I am @...I can B a cusser w/out realizing as well as t/ sailor (nothing personal reps of t/ US) But I AM a lady! Also, I am hard about being around smokers....PLEASE, it is not a reflection on YOU as a person, it is I am allergic & it gets worse t/ older I get...both these last 2 issues have managed 2 affect past relationships so think about where u R @, k?? (As far as God goes...u must BELIEVE in Jesus- No more being yoked to someone unequally ;) Does this count u out after reading all this way? My apologies...BUT GOOD LUCK!!!
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